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Love and Friendship?
04.07.03, 01:50:31
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I'm writing here becoz i have no one else to ask. I know there are some intelligent people out there and i hope they can give me a hand.
I have 2 best friends, one happens to be male and the other female. We all get along great and have a good time whenever we get together. But now they have developed feelings for each other and they may end up going out. At first i was like 'yeah that would be kool' but now i have my doubts, i feel that they are gonna abandon me and eventually leave me out coz of their new found feelings. I have spoken to them and they sed that they won't leave me out but i can't help but feel the worst to happen. It has happened to me before: losing my best friend to his emotional urges. This is why i'm glad i can control my emotions.
I hope someone can give me advice to deal with such a problem. |
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You'll be left-out. I don't know what to tell you on how to deal with it, but you will. That's just inevitable.
I suppose just wait it out until they break-up, but in the case, you'll only be able to be with one of them at once. =\ |
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| I'm with Dark, chances are you'll be left out in the cold, it's just the natural flow of things. There's no way to stop it either, I'd just suggest you start forming new friendships before you're left all alone. Sorry about this bud. |
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I practically forfeited my other friendships for these two. The dynamics on my outer group are too complex. There are about 20 of us and there are always problems arising, i decided to stick with these two coz i knew they were my friends for a long time to go. Then they go and tell me this and now its all blown in my face.
Its our last year in college too, nxt year he is goin away to Uni and shes going to another college near by. It's really getting to me now. |
Last edited by Desperado : 04.14.03 at 04:24:48.
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| U might be left out.. depending on how close u are... i have a couple very good friends that are boyfriend/girlfriend.. sure they have there alone time but we all hang out alot!!!! so i cant say theu will leave you |
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| ah, damn....... I know what ur going through too. But- yah. They're right. You're gonna be left out, hun. And yah, its time to start getting new friends- your life shouldn't souly depend on only two...... its better to have many good friends than only having one, you know? They'll let you fall if you need to, and they'll catch you with full force. Good luck to ya, mate.... |
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I'll don't think they would leave you out, ive had the same with a friend of mine but they didn't leave me out... I think you should trust your friends in what they say...and i'm sure they will keep theire word.
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Yes, you'll be left out...same thing happened to me. I dunno..but it seems groups of three never work out even if they're all "just friends"..someone always gets left out.
just get some new friends, lol. that's about all I can tell you... |
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I'd say get new friends and hang out with the other to less. Strength bonds with old friends, or go out anf try and meet some new ones.  |
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| DAMN THATS TOO BAD MAN! BUT YOU SHOULD BE HAPPY FOR THEM THAT THEYVE MADE THE CONVERSION ITS NOT EASY TO START GOING OUT WITH A FRIEND THERES SO MUCH TO LOSE. YOU WILL EITHER BE LEFT OUT OR PUT IN THE MIDDLE I WOULD RATHER BE LEFT OUT. IF THEYRE YOUR TRUE FRIENDS THEY WONT COMPLETELY ABANDON U BUT THEY WILL LEAVE YOU OUT TO A CERTAIN EXTENT. IF YOUR IN COLLEGE TO THEN TAKE THIS TIME TO REALLY STORM FORWARD WITH UR CARRER. IT WILL GIVE YOU SOMETHING TO HELP TAKE THE EDGE OFF |
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