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If you haven't, read "Welcome to My World" before you read this post
The hardest thing to do is to change your view on life. I'm trying to go from a 'half empty' pessimist to a 'half full' optimist.
Unfortunatly for me, I have subconcious depression.
I used to keep telling myself how horrible I am, how worthless I am, how depression is ruining my life, how death is the answer. And after about two years of these thoughts going through my head, I subconciously started to make myself beleive this. I told myself that things that I think that are too good to be true are. I told myself that my parents are torturing me mentally for their pleasure. I told myself that my friend are going to backstab me. I told myself that girlfriends are lying to me. And because I kept telling myself these things, they ended up hapenning.
The hardest thing I'm ever going to do since I was born is to subconsiously change my viewpoint on life. Which is going to be hard; taking two and a half years of me torturing myself. Because of my ****ed up point of view, I've literally messed up relationships with so many people.
Does anyone have any ideas? Tips? I don't think this is something I can do alone...I already have support of like two good friends I know....one being a person I grew up with...the other being my ex's former best friend (She hates my ex now for hurting me like that  ), both I can talk too openly about everything.
Yeah...I don't think I'll get any sleep so I'm going to read more of Brave New World... |
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| Heh, I was like that for a little while... and then I said "Screw the world, I'M damned brilliant and I don't care what anyone thinks cos I'm what should be the most important person in my life." So yeah, other people don't matter to me any more. Just me, me, me. Sure, it's self-centered, but once you realise that even helping other people benefits yourself, you start to enjoy helping, socialising even if you don't benefit in a material way. |
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This will be hard for ya Dale.....
We can't really give tips, I mean we're all different and different things work for different people and all, but whenever you feel yourself becoming pessimistic about anything just shut off your mind and then try to force in the positive thoughts. After a while it gets easier, just to shut off if you begin to feel yourself going down. Just try to find the good in whatever situation you are in, no matter how hopeless it seems. If it's that bad, things can only get better, and they will for ya hun. |
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I used to be depressed. Never wanted to go anywhere or do anything. Always self critical and trying to find flaws in myself. Comparing myself to aspirations I'll never be. Worrying about my life and what will become of it before it abruptly ends. The way I got over it is come to the resolution that I'm going to live, and there's nothing I can do about it. **** happens, I might as well be happy too. So I accept all these shortcomings and dissapointments in my life as normality, it happens to everyone. There is no reason you should beat yourself up because you're human. There will always be some sort of margin of mistake within everyone, the way you deal with it is up to you. You may be in a deep rut with this depression, but the fact of the matter is you can get over it if you try hard enough. What better way to prove your worth to yourself by beating your own depression and overcoming the subconscience brooding that has dragged you down for these two years? Just stop caring what other people think, and lose the definition of what you're supposed to be. You are who you are and there's nothing in the world wrong with that.
So stop screwing yourself with this self analyization and start getting on with your life, you're just ticking away perfectly good moments wasting time with this lack of confidence. It's as easy to get over as a nightmare or imaginary friend, the only factor is your will power, which in itself, is totally up to you and your commitment. Good luck. |
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| I would type up an awesome post, but it's not needed this time. Watch a few Rodney Dangerfield movies. That will perk you up, forever. |
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| well, i don't know exactly what to say... i'm really self-critical too... my bf changed that in me somehow.. try to find someone you can open up to, someone who doesn't care what you look like, doesn't care how you sound when you say something, weather you sound like a complete dork, or a complete genius. just open up to them, tell them everything about you, clear your concious and forget about the past... don't worry about anything... good luck with everything! |
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I know how exactly you feel Dal. That's how I feel all the time. I've always been a pessimist, "half empty" rather than "half full." All the questions that you ask yourself, all the things taht you question about yourself. All this I had to deal with... and I'm helping my friend deal with it too, she's 4 in my thread.
The thing is, we're human. Most unfortunate, yes. Humans are scum, yes. However, you have to stand up for what you are. That's how I dealt with my problems and views. All you do is stand up for what you are, no matter screwed up you are. Me, I don't really give a damn on how the rest of the world sees me. That's their opinion, I don't care. I am who I am, I will not be defeated, I will never bow to authority that I think is corrupt or irrelevant. I do what I like, I think what I like, and I let NOONE I don't like manipulate me in any way.
4 tells me that whenever she looks in the mirror she hates what she sees. I'll tell you what I tell her- so what? If you hate yourself, so? Love yourself for what you are, not hate it. If you think quality A about yourself is utter crap and think you're ugly in that aspect, instead of thinking "ugly" think "so? okay I'm like that, big hairy deal, let's go on." Be proud of what you are, no matter screwed up you think you are. That's the key- be yourself, be proud of whatever you think you are.
I never let anyone beat me. I may be a fallen angel and all dark and people think I'm the psycho crazy gothic mentally disturbed "strange" with very opinionated views guy, but I'll be damned if they do better than me in life or whatever. I am who I am, I know that, and I will do better than them, and I don't care what htey think of me. |
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I think it's too late for me to change. I've tried and tried, and everytime I think I succeed someone triggers it back.
I'm cursed with the bug of hate  |
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You CAN change, you just have to tell yourself that. Think of it this way, if you have your doubts, you aren't going to change. You can't doubt yourself. And you also can't be expecting to completely love everything about yourself 100% all the time. Most people don't.
Personally, there are things I hate about myself. Generally my looks ~_~, but I still have to stop and realize that they aren't important (kind of at least).
Don't focus on negative things, don't think of it as "I need to stop being pessimistic," think of it as "I need to become more optimistic." Don't let it lead you to doing stupid things because it's not worth it. No one's worthless, don't let anyone or anything let you feel that way. Find things you love and focus your energy on them. You can change ^^ |
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