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Too weak to even try
08.18.02, 10:43:03
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As many of you will know by now, I have health problems which make my bones and flesh weak. To add to all that I have a weak immune system too. It prevents me from doing a lot of things you would think normal.
I recently discovered that if I ever wanted to have children, I would probably have to adopt. The doctor said it IS possible for me to have children but it would be dangerous for me and the unborn child. Now this would usually be a big shock to people at my age but it didn't bother me. I didn't plan to have children anyway and now that I couldn't it started to bother me a bit. I mean, I had always not been able to do certain things anyway but this was big. I couldn't have kids, or I'd harm myself or the child. I still don't want to have kids but it hurts me to think that I couldn't.
I mean, so many things I can't do already and this just added to it all, toppling it over.
Do you know anyone that's been in this position? How would you feel in this situation? If I wanted to have kids: should I? Opinions and comments please. |
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First of all, I want to say that I'm sorry that you have been made to suffer this way. Although I'm sure you must be sick of hearing that from people. I know I am...
Feelings change, and should you one day want children, you will have many paths ahead of you. If adoption is the safest method, both for your sake and that of the child, then I would do it, were I you. I know this sounds odd coming from a guy, but it doesn't unmake the fact that motherhood, as it is love, is one of those things that simply should not be analyzed or dissected by science. It simply is what it is. The most important thing, when and if you decide to be a mother, is that you are a good one; that you are cautious and liberating and strong for your child.
Though I've no doubt you would be an excellent parent! Ultimately this choice is yours. Whatever you decide, I wish you much happiness in the future!
Ever since I joined these forums I've looked up to you Eternity. And I will continue to. |
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I feel so bad for you Rei.  Your such a nice, and caring person, you don't deserve to go through anything like this. I don't really know how to put how sorry I am for you into words, but that really sucks. |
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Are there medications availible? I suppose not or you would have tried them. Well, honestly, I probably wouldn't but that's my opinion. You do whatever you need to. Remember that medical technology improves over time, there may be a way to help you in the near future.  |
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wongbong.
Falen/klasko/tab is back. Pamper me.
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That really suks...no one deserves to be that way...my sister has a very similar situation too yours Rei...it was very hard for her...but i dont know...it might be easier for you...
its funny that me and my sis are totaly opposite in everything...
and what len said...there will be.. |
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*Uses Remedy and removes all status ailments  *
I am very sorry to hear all about that, and on top of that to hear that the doctor has brought this upon you at such a young age? It is very physically limiting when you are in such a state, but that only means you can become advanced mentally, as we see in Eternity. She is very wise, beyond her years...sounds like someone else I know... |
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| i'm real sorry to hear this abt u or ne one. this problem shouldn't happen to ne one. even thou u said u prolly don't want kids u should at least have a choice not being told u can't have one. |
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| I'm so sorry to hear that Rei...My aunt has gone through something similar. She adopted though and its been a good experience so far. |
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"Some things are never left finished...other times you just gotta finish them yourself"
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'Tis is shame for any human being to go through not only this kind of hardship, but many. Knowing someone who suffers from a rare hardship, that is the part that makes us feel bad about it.
If I were in your position, I wouldn't give life either, I'd rather adopt. |
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