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dead to the world, or just him?
08.23.06, 23:32:48
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ok... so lately my boyfriend has taking to hanging around with friends. which is normally fine, but these friends happen to be other chicks. that not only makes me horribly jealous, it cuts me deep.
to add salt to the wound, he was haning around with a chick today (who happens to be a mutual friend), and i was trying to chat on the phone with him while she was at his place. she was talking at the same time i was trying to talk, and he was ignoring me to continue talking with her. i got angry and upset, so i hung up on him.
so tonight, i get online to do my normal ebaying and emailing whatnot, and she pops up on messenger and starts *****ing me a new one about how horrible i am to him, and how badly i treat him.
edit: i forgot to mention that he's very upset with me for taking offense to all this.
so tell me, am i wrong for feeling so wronged and hurt? |
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| I don't think so, though you shouldn't bottle up those feelings. You really need to tell him how you feel right now about how he has been behaving. Comunication right now is your best tool, and it's best if you go to him directly. Just call him over to your house, or anywhere some day and calmly tell him what's been bothering you. If he truly cares, he'll hear you out. |
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| i agree, comunicate. woman have a tendency to get pissy for no reason, or atleast it looks that way to us guys some time. talking should clear it up, unless he is an *******, then you should kill him. |
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J A PAN!!!!
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| trust your boyfriend. Your jealousy is just going to piss him off. Just trust that he's not going to do anything stupid, and you'll be fine. |
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That's what Brian Biotano would do.
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I agree with Zanarky, but also think you should talk with him about it. If you can't trust him with others, then there isn't much of a real relationship there to begin with.
Make sure you are with him when you talk about it, though--not on the phone and not on a messenger. Just be frank with him and make sure that you do look him in the eyes a lot. If he is upset for you because you don't like the way he treats you, either pause for a second, breathe and continue; or it's time to rethink the quality of your relationship.
I know it's hard. I've been in the same situation, but to not talk about it will only make things worse. If you don't say anything about it, you can't say you even tried to make things better, and you also cheat him out of the chance to attempt to make things better. |
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| Seems to me that he's upset because you're acting pissy. Which from the way you tell it, you have every right to do... but guys are generally idiots, and they never know WHY us girls get pissy. So yeah, talk to him and lay it all out. And if he shrugs it off, it may be time to start reevaluating the relationship. |
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Searching for my mind... I lost it somewhere...
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for the love of christ and all that is holy my anus is bleeding
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but guys are generally idiots,
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Why, thank you.
Time for a man to step in. Girl, you just need to tell him that you get pissed off and jealous because he seems to prefer to spend his time with his female 'friends' instead of with you. You need to step down and tell him that he's yours, and that if he wants to stick with you, he needs to quit going to all the ladies.
If that makes him break up with you, then that's tough luck - at least you stood up for yourself. |
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I've always found it super-retarded when chicks get jealous, cause you have friends that are female. Especially, since most of the time alot of their friends are male.
Anyway.. Talk to him about it. However, if your issue isn't so much a "you spend more time with your friends than me" thing, but rather a "you have female friends" thing.. You're gonna be hardpressed to find a guy that wouldn't rather just not bother with you at all.
And I swear, the first person that claims "no guy/girl hangs out with the opposite sex, unless they want something" will be shot on sight. That's a cop-out reason to feed needless jealousy. Not saying that no guy/girl hangs out with the opposite sex just to get laid. Just noting that assuming that is most likely scenerio is pretty immature. |
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Oh, snap. I'm back online.
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but guys are generally idiots
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Oh, SORRY. its not my fault if I don't understand why my grilfreind gets mad at me for sleeping with all of her friends. I guess its just a guy thing. |
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